Being a Parent

Things You Can Do

Be patient with each other. Having a new baby can be stressful.
Spend some time together each night after your baby goes to sleep.
Take turns doing the hardest tasks.
After breastfeeding has become easy, you may want to pump or express some of your milk into a bottle so Dad can help feed the baby.
Let the little things go. It’s more important to enjoy being with your new baby than to have a perfect house.
Plan some family outings, so you don’t feel trapped in the house.
Share chores and talk about who does what.
Give each other little breaks—like time for a bath or a moment alone.
Don’t forget romance. Even if you aren’t ready to have sex, let your partner know he or she is attractive to you.
If you argue, try to stay focused on what’s bothering you. Tell your partner clearly why you are upset. Listen carefully and try not to blame.

Protect your infant from too much noise and from glaring lights.
Create comforting routines for feeding, diapering, naps, hellos and good-byes.
Talk to your baby in a soothing voice and use simple words.
Respond promptly to your baby’s smiles, coos, gestures and cries.
When your baby cries, pick him up, cuddle and comfort him.
For more information on early childhood, call National Parent Info Network. Visit Parents Action and First 5 California.